Sometimes, it does not mean a definite “yes” or “no”, you simply changed your mind.

I decided to change my job, I decided that I don’t want to go to that gym anymore, I decided that I don’t want to get married, I decided that I prefer to stay here, I decided that I’m fine like this, I decided that I want to spend those dates with you, I decided that I didn’t like that meal, I decided that I want to try again or I decided that I don’t want to…

Those are phrases that any of us would say or something we would hear more than once (or even, in less than 5 minutes). It’s the everyday. We change our mind, how we feel or think. That is not bad. It is natural and it is OK.

It is all right saying yes, and then no. It is acceptable saying no, or then, just agree again. It is all right to go for it, and also making mistakes. It is OK to take the risk.

I thought of this simple reflection based on my own ideas and others that I confess, I also heard from others.

Days ago I was thinking in circles around a simple topic… as if it were going to have a significant impact. With the person with whom I was talking, told me: «well, and if it’s not what you think, you’ll just have to look for another option, we’re all constantly doing that.» Listening to how this person saw it as something so easy, and I was complicating it without need, I remembered how we sometimes can drown in a glass of water. We make something complex out of what it’s not. But I recognize, there are always  exceptions.

And for that person who days ago trusted me with news of a radical change in her life and with her partner. This is a reminder that we don’t owe explanations to anyone. We have to trust our feelings, and seek the best for each one. If this entails decisions that will have changes, so to speak, more radical as a consequence, then, we will work them step by step. Because while we’re alive, everything can be done.

As the artist Andy Warhol once said: «They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself».

So if today you were thinking about whether yes or not. Do it.