The natural reaction is to regret a bad choice, but’ s even faster how we may regret a bad relationship, no matter if it involves a friend or your partner. The thing is, it may feel like it’s the end of the world at first, but that sensation of discomfort, it is more common than what we could think. It means that we’ve understood that something wasn’t right, and we can start from there. That’s when we can truly change where we’re standing.

Yes… sure it’ll hurts, it is annoying, it’s feeling disappointed and sometimes we blame ourselves for not seeing what others did noticed, or for pretending or trying to fool ourselves for so long. But when something goes up, it must come down… just like those feelings, they’ll also fade away.

Regrets are not something bad, however, I’m not talking about a constant remorse, neither about feeling the worst person on earth or suffering about those memories. In my opinion, regret is opening our eyes, it’s looking at the whole picture, it’s understanding the situation and accepting what wasn’t good for us. Regret (being optimistics) acts as a milestone for change, and that means to forget… leave what’s not helping us. It means moving forward, or at least that’s the purpose for today’s post…

Most of the time we listen how we should choose our friends wisely, and the social pressure it’s quite significant when it comes to choosing our partner or when starting a new relationship.

With those comments we could fall on thinking that once you’ve made up your mind, you cannot change your answer. But let’s make this clear, once and for all. No matter what others say, we can always change, take back what we said or think different, especially when it involves our personal well being.

Not everything is how we lived it, not everyone is as they look or as we remember. It is impossible to make no mistakes on our perceptions. It is impossible to guess if we can trust someone or not. This is why it is also impossible not to be wrong about someone. Not only on our love life, but also about a friend, our co-worker, etc.

The purpose of this is trying to make things right, to keep it up, but if you already messed up… well, it’s done.. no big deal, you made a mistake, there’s nothing more to it. It happens, just focus and think on how we’ve all been there, somehow.

What we do need to work on;  it’s (at least try) to avoid  those situations, and stay with our eyes wide open when someone or something similar appears. We’ll have to breathe two or three times, break something, shout, sing, whatever you need to do to let that go…

… And if anyone asks about your regrets, forget about details… stop giving any explanations, or excuses. Everything changes, that’s life… but also, everything comes to an end.